We are coming up on the home stretch of National Masturbation Month.  If your wrist isn’t sore or if you haven’t stolen the batteries from every remote control in the house, well, you just haven’t celebrated enough.  You might as well use this month as an excuse to take extra long showers and up your number of daily orgasms. 

Masturbation releases endorphins, acts as a natural sleep aid, eases menstrual cramps and let’s not forget, its fun!  If you have been tired and cranky, now may be a good time to engage in some good old fashioned solo sex.  You’ll be doing yourself and everyone around you a favor.

I’ll cut to the chase.  What kind of people would we be if we didn’t have a contest in the name of National Masturbation Month?  Crappy people, that’s what.  That’s why we here at Sextoys.com are having a National Masturbation Month Giveaway!  Tell your craziest masturbation story and you could win a free sex toy!  We have a girl toy (Brigit by Touche), a boy toy (Vibrating Sex Buddy by Topco) and a super secret surprise toy for the most over the top story.  Have you ever used a vibrator while hanging upside down singing the star spangled banner?  Have you ever pleasured yourself in the middle of an underwater basket weaving contest?  If so, we want to know! 

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Happy masturbating!

Didn’t anyone teach you to share?

In honor of National Masturbation Month I have decided to discuss one of my favorite activities: shared masturbation.  It is essentially the act of 2 people pleasuring themselves at the same time in each other’s presence.

Watching someone else satisfy themselves is one of my biggest turn-ons.  It is such an intensely personal act.  I feel like I am getting let in on a naughty little secret.  It is educational and among the highest levels of intimacy.  Not only do I get aroused, I get a lesson in what the other person likes and exactly what it takes to get them off.

In my relationship, we have long passed the point of getting comfortable with masturbating in front of one another.  As a matter of fact, our first sexual encounter involved me using a dildo on myself while he watched and pleasured himself.  At the time, shared masturbation was still a new concept to me.  I am not even sure I knew it had a name!  I happened to feel comfortable and it just seemed right.  From that point on, there was no stopping the masturbatory goodness!

For us, the initiation varies depending on the situation.  At times one of us will start when the mood strikes and the other will join in.  Sometimes this just happens while we are laying bed together or while watching some good porn.   The words “will you masturbate for me” are often heard in my house.  My boy and I are both voyeurs and exhibitionists so this works out nicely.
 
Surprise, the burlesque performer likes to be watched!  Some may call this narcissism; I call it being comfortable with my body and sexuality.

While shared masturbation is something that occurs naturally in my relationship, my other relationships were not the same.  I realize many people are not so comfortable diddling their sweet spots for even just an audience of one.  Queer or straight, many have the same concerns.  There are no rules and I am not a doctor, but I can share what has worked for me.

Try not to view masturbation as the competition!  A hand, vibrator or pocket pussy is not meant to take the place of sex.  Rather than getting jealous, take it as an opportunity to learn about your partner’s preferences.  Does your girl enjoy g-spot and clitoral stimulation at the same time?  Is one side of her clitoris more sensitive than the other?  Does she favor a vibrating bullet over her fingers?  Does your boy like long strokes?  Does he like his balls played with?  Perhaps anal stimulation gets the job done.  There are a plethora of possibilities here.  Pay attention and you will be a sexual god or goddess in the eyes of your lover.

Each week during National Masturbation Month I will feature more tips and let you in on more of my experiences with shared masturbation.  From setting the mood to near perfect orgasmic timing you won’t want to keep masturbation a secret anymore!  For those of you who already indulge in the act, read, enjoy and feel free to comment with your own 2 cents.

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Check out the Sex Toys Blog on Sunday for the Sunday Sex Toy Review.  You will find my Sunday Wishes AND the winner of the Sexiest Toys for Couples!