Are you and your mate getting bored in the bedroom?  Is your routine getting a little too routine?  Do you simply want to try something new in the sack?  Strap on sex is here to save the day!

Whether you are a lady who holds a strict girls only policy, a boy lovin’ babe or somewhere in between (some may call us selfish), strap on sex is a sure way to put the jolt back in anyone’s cola of kink.

We have plenty of harnesses, strap on dildos and all in one kits for you to choose from.  Let’s chat about them, shall we?

Harnesses, you say?

Vibrating harness with interchangeable O rings

The harness is the apparatus that you wear in which the dildo is attached to.  It connects you to the fun.  There are various styles:

G-string/ 2 strap – One strap around the waist, one between the legs

- Less secure than other types; sagging of the dildo tends to occur, the dildo may flop, in turn you will have less control.
- Straps may rub in between the cheeks and may be irritating.

Bikini/panty- exactly what it sounds like

- Some come in the form of shorts
- Less secure, less control and flopage has been known to occur with this variety
- Some find these to be more comfortable then the G-string style harnesses.

Three strap – one strap around the waist, 2 thigh straps: each strap comes from the crotch and wraps around each thigh.

- Very secure and gives you maximum control of your newest member!

Like most things in life, there is some variation within these harness types.  Some even vibrate!  What is awesome about all strap on harnesses?  There is a chance that the wearer will also get a pleasurable sensation from them!  That’s right, while the strap on-er is giving it to the strap on-ee, there will be a little movement and the friction from the harness will put a tingle in just the right spot.

When it comes to choosing the right one for you, you must decide which would be most comfortable and how much control you want to have over your fun new appendage.

How do you attach the dildo to the harness?  The most common is the o-ring style attachment.  Once the dildo is in place, the ring secures the dildo’s flared base to the harness.  The o-ring must be larger than your dildo.  If the ring is too small for your dong, it won’t fit and then everyone is just sad.  Keep this in mind and try to purchase a harness that allows you to change the o-rings so you can use different sized dildos.

Can’t I just use any old dildo during strap on sex?

No, but you can use a lot of them.  Strap on dildos must have a flared base or set of balls.  Got it?  Some dildos are made with strap on harness compatibility in mind.  Both Tantus and Vixen Creations make lots of fabulous silicone dildos that are perfect for steamy hot strap on sex.

Strap on Kits come with the harness and compatible dildo all in one!  No need to play the strap on dildo-harness match game.  It has been done for you!  Some even come with multiple o-rings so you can change out your dildos.

What about those Vac-U-Lock contraptions?  Doc Johnson has patented a system in which the hollow end of the dildo locks on to the “attachment plug” protruding from the harness.  Only Vac-U-Lock dildos are compatible with Vac-U-Lock harnesses and vice versa. 

Have fun choosing your tools of choice.  Think about the right size, what type of harness you would be most comfortable in and so on.   Strap on sex is fun, but if the equipment isn’t right you won’t get the most out of your play time.

Silicone dildos are awesome.  It’s a fact.  We love them so much that we dedicated an entire category to them.  Regardless of your dildo style, there is a silicone dildo out there for you.

Let’s talk about a few, shall we?

Leisure: For the simple chick who likes her toys understated, simple and satisfying.  Also for the girl who likes to dabble in a little bit of strap on play.

“The perfect harness toy. The Leisure is so simple that you might wonder why it wasn’t developed sooner. Leisure has a narrow tip for a gentle beginning, and smooth shaft that bends to your body’s interior curves.”

Little Su Natural Dildo

Little Su Natural Dildo: For the unique lady who likes hands free play and clitoral stimulation with her silicone dildo.  It is quite versatile and can stimulate your partner while you wear it; there’s nothing wrong with a little bump and grind!  It comes with an instruction manual with tons of fun ideas for use.

“The Little Su by Joya 4U is an inventive new silicone toy that was designed by women, with women in mind! The smart design teases the sensitive vaginal opening, G-Spot and clit all with the same toy. The amazing clitoral bump rests in place upon insertion, allowing for hands-free solo play. Women will find it adds to both solo and partnered sex equally!”

Cavalier:  If you’re a bit anal, this is the dildo for you!  I’m not talking about your attention to detail, either.  Described as a “butt plug crossed with anal beads”, this silicone wonder is sure to please all who like anal play.

“The Cavalier dildo has an amazing texture, full of graduated bulges and sexy raised curves, and is perfect for a fun evening of anal play! The flared base makes it perfect for use with a harness, and also works as a suction cup, sticking to any flat, non-porous surface for hands free fun.”

Hoss

Hoss: Size queens, you know who you are.  Hoss is for the ambitious woman who wants it all and then some.  With 11 insertable inches and an 8.5 inch girth, beginners are no match for this big hunk of burning love.

“Size Queens rejoice! Hoss is the biggest silicone cock Tantus makes and is perfect for those of you looking to ride a big old stallion until you scream! The impressive girth and long shaft are sure to be enough to fulfill even the greediest people out there – so put on your spurs and give ‘er a go!”

Goodfella:  For the woman who likes em’ real.  This dildo is great for the person who likes to strap it on and give the receiver that life like feel.  This Vixskin cock has a comfortable base, a satisfying texture and 3D balls.  Yes, I said 3D balls.

“This special design allows the receiver to feel the true-to-life testicles with every thrust, instead of an O ring or fastener. Also excellent as a pack and play dildo, the Goodfellas flexible silicone allows him to be gently bent down to wear under clothes in a harness, springing up and ready to go when the moment strikes.”

Ella

Ella: For the classy broad.  This g-spot dildo oozes with elegance and sophistication. 

“ELLA is a dedicated pleasure object with one end precisely designed to reach and stimulate the G-spot area, the other fashioned for conventional erotic stimulation.”
 

What is all of this silicone dildo hype about?  They are hypoallergenic, nonporous, phthalates free and scent free.  What does this mean to you?  It means they are body safe and won’t cause irritation or infections like other toys made out of porous materials.  They can be sterilized (as long as no vibe is present) by means of boiling for less than 10 minutes, washing with a 10% bleach solution or placed in the dish washer (no detergent).  Since they can be completely sterilized they can be shared with a friend – or 2 if that’s how you roll.  As long as they are cared for properly they have a long life span. 

Here is some helpful info: If possible store your silicone dildos upright.  Be sure not to rest them on top of one another, this may cause some deterioration.  Always use a water based lube!  Silicone lube will eat away at your precious silicone dildo!

Treat yourself to a silicone dildo and you will see what a valuable investment it is.  You and your naughty bits deserve it!

Featured Product for Couples, the Nubbed Tumbler Pyrex Dildo lends itself to couples’ use and play time fun.  Ladies, just lie back, relax and let your partner use the handle to rotate the dildo and send waves of stimulation through you.  This unique sensation will have you spellbound by the spiraling g-spot titillation.  The nubs on the base of the dildo will go sliding across your labia and clit at the same time.  Also happening simultaneously, your eyes will role to the back of your head and you will begin to speak in a language unknown by any other human.  Just in case you want to know what to expect.

As with all Pyrex toys, it is body safe and is perfect for temperature play.  Heat it up in warm water, or cool it off in the freezer.  Your little nerve endings won’t know what to do with themselves.  Also, it will be easy going with the lube of your choice.  Since glass is nonporous, it won’t absorb it before the fun starts.

However, a friend did give me a bit of advice on this dildo.  When excitement is at its peak, everything gets wet and wild, and bodies start to writhe.  Be careful!  The glass will be extra slippery and the flared base may go too far.  Pulling it out will be far less than comfortable.  Keep this in mind so you can enjoy this toy without any painful interruptions.

This 4 inch Pyrex dildo includes a small handle, so that the dildo can be turned while inside. The small clear nubs at the base of the shaft will give extra stimulation especially while being rotated with the handle.

Pyrex dildos are very easy to clean. Just use plain soap and water.  The material is non-porous, hypoallergenic, easily sterilized, durable and works with all lubes.  This dildo measures 4 inches of insertable length.  The handle makes it easy to insert, release and maneuver the dildo.

Makes a wonderful display piece. The handcrafted glass looks like a striking work of art.

Check out all of our Featured Products For Couples!

What was the best attribute of the Matinee Idol by Topco? 

The suction cup base.  I stuck it to the inside of my passenger car window as I was driving home.  It didn’t budge.  Well, the cock itself was jiggling all around, doing all of the things that big dopey jelly cocks do when attached to a car window.  You know, the usual bobbing up and down as if it is agreeing to something.  The occasional shake from side to side in the event of an abrupt stop.  As fun as it was to let the dildo wiggle and shake on the ride home, I thought a more real-life application was appropriate.  Naturally, the shower wall was the next test surface.

The suction was just as strong to the shower wall as it was to the window.  This time it was me testing the wiggles and shakes and it did not disappoint.  At 7 ½ inches, there was more than enough to satisfy me.  It was life like in almost every sense of the word, from the helmet head to the veiny shaft and the wrinkled balls.  Even through the condom barrier, I could feel the details of this slightly daunting dildo.  P.S.  It is never a bad idea to use a condom when using jelly sex toys.

If you like realistic cocks that you can stick to the wall and go to town on, the Matinee Idol would be great for you.  The only distraction was the unpleasant smell that always comes from jelly toys.  Let’s just say it’s not an aphrodisiac.  But if you use a condom and light some incense you and the Matinee Idol will be lovers in no time.

Take charge with The Strict Leather 4-Strap Ultimate Dildo Harness.  One look at this rig and your mate will bend over with no questions asked!  If you are ready to take your strap on play a step in the fetish direction, this is Featured Product For Couples is for you.

“Very secure and adjustable, the Strict Leather 4-Strap Ultimate Dildo Harness is an attractive harness at an affordable price. The classic version of this harness has one strap in the back that covers the genital/anal cleft in g-string fashion, but this version is made with 2 straps in back that wrap around the buttocks, leaving the genitals and ass exposed.

It is adjustable in several different ways for perfect fit and dildo placement. Standard ring size is 1.75 inches in diameter, which should fit most pliable dildos from 1.5 inches to 2 inches in diameter. The rings are held in place by snaps in the leather straps. For very large or very small dildos, it is also possible to substitute different sized rings. Now made in one size that fits waist measurements from 26-40 inches.”

I love the sexy studs and have an appreciation for secure harnesses.  When I first dipped my toes into the world of strap ons, I purchased one that had limited options when it came to adjusting the straps.  The thong was loose and it was difficult to operate.  However, what I love most about the Ultimate Harness is that it allows for the naughty bits to be exposed.  This is comfortable and frees up the goods for other activities!

If this is a little too intimidating, we have plenty of strap on options for you to choose from!

So how did the burly-q show go?

Fabulous!  Tickets were sold out the day before the show, so no pressure.  Right.  Everyone in the troupe, including myself, was excited and eager.  We were a bit nervous knowing that we would be performing to a packed house with high expectations.  Did we disappoint?  Not even a little bit.  The hosts were hilarious, the band didn’t miss a beat and us dancing girls, well let’s just say we were on top of our game.  So, you get the point.  The show was a success, but you want details. 

The number: The Coffee Shop Girl

The voiceover begins as I am wiping down the counter.  My thoughts are heard: “The only thing that makes this job worth it is that hot guy that comes in here… He really grrrriiiinds my beans!”  (I know it’s corny, this is burlesque, people).  The voiceover continues and needless to say the hot guy enters.  He freezes, the other “customers” freeze and my coffee shop–striptease-fantasy begins.  It’s funny, it’s sexy, it’s fun for the whole family.  Okay, so maybe not the whole family. 

Anyhoo, speaking of successful sales, allow me to introduce you to one of our best sellers:  The Charmer.

The ridges to charm the G-spot.

Charmer Purple Haze is a dildo designed to hit the G-spot over and over as it’s worked in and out. Many people do not know how to find the G-spot.

Most G-spot toys on the market are 6 inches in length, this has lead people to think they are supposed to put the toy in all the way, and end up missing the mark. The urethral sponge is located 1 to 3 inches inside the vaginal opening, so the Charmers many ridges are a guaranteed hit!

1.4 inches x 6.8 inches

Tantus Inc. uses only the highest quality materials in the manufacture of their sex toys. These sex toys are an excellent choice for consumers who suffer allergies, or sensitivity to chemicals. Whether it is medical grade silicone or quality controlled, body safe and treated aluminum, you can be sure that the use of a Tantus sex toy is safe and healthy. For more information, see the interview with Metis Black from Tantus Inc. in the Sex Toys Blog.

Guaranteed to hit your G-spot?  I’m sold.

I am in love with the Vibrating Corsette Harness by Sportsheets!

Sarah from the Sextoys . com blog introduced me to it yesterday.  She has a great eye for fabulous products and knew I would love this one.

Burlesque and corsettes go together like lube and anal sex.  Call me a cliché, but as a burlesque performer I am drawn to this harness.  The lace up back is incredibly sexy, especially with the dangling bow just barely tickling your tushy.  The plush purple material is elegant and appealing to the eye.  There is no need to feel or look dumpy when strapping it on. 

So it looks great, but what about function?  It is made by Sportsheets so I am confident that it is a quality product.  They are known for taking great pride when it comes to making products for couples’ play time.

”Everyone will be happy when you add this Vibrating Corestte Harness to your sex toy arsenal. This luxurious harness is built to fit up to 60 inch hips and includes a bullet vibe and three interchangeable rubber o-rings (1.5, 1.75, 2.0 inches).

The harness is made out of plush fabric and seductively shapes your ass into the shape of a heart, so you’re sure to look as good as this plush Sportsheets’ harness makes you feel.”

If you want this product as much as I do then you will need a dong to go with it.  Check out Sarah’s Revue of the Sedeux Skyn Dildo by Sportsheets and find out if that is the one for you.  Also, she wants to know where the love is for the Hitachi Magic Wand.  Find out why and show her some love while you are at it.  After all, she did introduce me this awesome Corsette Harness.  Thanks Sarah!

We are all special and unique snowflakes and have different needs.  Some prefer short and thin, some prefer tuna can shaped, some prefer medium sized.  Some, well some like em’ big and bad ass from every angle possible.  Let’s just say the Tantus Hoss is the Papa Bear sized dildo.

“Size Queens rejoice! Hoss is the biggest silicone cock Tantus makes and is perfect for those of you looking to ride a big old stallion until you scream! The impressive girth and long shaft are sure to be enough to fulfill even the greediest people out there – so put on your spurs and give ‘er a go!

Hoss is made from 100% premium silicone and with 11 insertable inches and a circumference of 8.5 inches – this is one of the most impressive body safe dongs around. This big cock is realistically shaped with a distinct head, carved frenulum and teasing veins and folds. The big balls give you something to grind against as this big dong fills you completely.

Length: 13 inches

Insertable: 11 inches

Circumference: 8.5 inches

Diameter: 2.7 inches

Base diameter: 5 inches”

This isn’t Goldie Locks’ cock.  You can get one here, but make sure you have what it takes to handle this no bs bundle of big.

Yesterday afternoon Bill asked what I would add to the Aneros SGX to make the perfect play time scenario.  Well, I had to make you all wait for the answer since I had a very important Can Can to perform in celebration of Bastille Day.  I thought about it for a while and it hit me.  The Aneros SGX is a prostate massager, so naturally a G-spot toy would be the perfect match.  Both you and your boo could share some special spot stimulation time.

The Whirly by Fun Factory is a G-spot dildo that I have had my eye on for a while now.  It is adorable and I love the ocean so naturally I am drawn to it.  However, I am more concerned with what his conveniently shaped snout can do for my G-spot.  It looks to be curved just right and I even think he is smiling.  Also, the suction cup base is a plus because solo G-spot play can be a bit difficult when the toy is without a special handle.  Just stick it to something and indulge in hands free self gratification.  OR, use your hands to operate your boy’s prostate massager!

This playful dolphin dildo is ready to work magic on the G-spot, in the water or between the sheets! This unique sex toy is shaped like a leaping, smiling dolphin and is made of pure silicone that can be boiled or bleached to sterilize between uses.

A suction cup base is shaped into three lobes for easy handling, safe anal play, and perfect harness compatibility. Raised features like fins and eyes add extra textural sensation for even more fun!

Color: Turquoise Blue Type: Dildo Material: Silicone Length: 5 3/4in Insertable Length: 4 3/4in Circumference: 4 3/4in Special Features: Boilable, Harness Compatible, Suction Cup Base.

Do you know what goes with every play time scenario?  Protection!  Bill found a great article on Condoms and Porn.  It is a reminder that safer sex should be a priority for everyone.  So get your toys and be prepared.  We have a great selection of condoms and dental dams to choose from.

I could gaze upon this beautiful Tantus vibrator all day long.  Its curve and dew drop like head are ever so pleasing to the eye.  It is a lovely shade of purple; purple haze to be exact.  More importantly, what can the Elements Theta do in the ways of pleasure?

“The Theta Vibrator features a unique head that plays on the vaginal nerve pack as it slides in and out. The curve of the shaft mimics the curves of your body for an easy sensual motion. All the elements feature a new ergonomic base with a grooved base that holds the thumb and is angled for a uniquely comfortable experience.

The Theta is a perfect toy for solo or couples play. It also features a removable vibrator that can be easily replaced or upgraded to a multi-speed unit. Diameter: 1 inch Length: 5.75 inches.

Tantus Inc. uses only the highest quality materials in the manufacture of their sex toys. These sex toys are an excellent choice for consumers who suffer from allergies, or sensitivity to chemicals. Whether it is medical grade silicone or quality controlled, body safe and treated aluminum, you can be sure that the use of a Tantus sex toy is safe and healthy. For more information, see the interview with Metis Black from Tantus Inc. in the Sex Toys Blog. You can find the link at the top of this page.”

I love that Tantus kept the curves of the female body in mind when designing this.  It is one of the many reasons it is one of our Featured Products for Women.  They think of everything and I love them for it!