Wanda is already on her way to Kristy.  Read a little more about this awesome anal toy and you may want to snag it for yourself.

“Fun Factory’s Wand dildo is a unique toy that’s sure to please.  Thanks to the curved boys and delicious details. Silicone is a body safe material that is phthalate-free and can be sterilized in between sessions.

Wanda is relatively small, making it the perfect fit for beginners and anal play. A free sample of Fun Factory’s Toyfluid is included with this 6.5 inch dildo.”

Wanda is flexible yet firm with the flared base that is always necessary for anal play.  It is also harness compatible so it can be used during strap on play. 

More anal play tips:
- Always use a toys that has a flared base.
- Always have plenty of lube on hand.  Water based lubricant is best for use with toys.
- When using a toy for anal play, never use it for vaginal play without sterilizing first!
- Know your size!  It is always wise to start small and work your way up.  Your back door is sensitive and can be harmed if not treated with care.  With the right sized sex toys, anal play can be extremely stimulating and just plain fun.

Good luck to everyone and don’t forget to enter Cupid’s Fun Factory contest for a chance to win FREE Fun Factory toys!

Here is a little how to and why:

Prostate Massage = Prostate Health

- Increases blood flow to the prostate which supplies nutrients and oxygen to the male reproductive system.
- May help improve erectile function.
- Can boost semen quality.
- And more!

I am not a doctor!  Check with a medical doctor to see what health risks are associated with prostate stimulation.  It is known that people with prostate cancer or acute prostatitis should not receive prostate massages, as it could cause both to spread.  Visit your doctor and find out what other conditions apply.  Proceed at your own risk!

What you will need:

- Lube
- Latex gloves, nitrile gloves or finger cots.
- Prostate Massager – If you choose to use one, finger(s) works.

Preparation:

- For Him – He should take care of his business and make sure everything is empty, shower and clean thoroughly
- For you – Wash your hands thoroughly, trim your fingernails and smooth rough edges, have your lube and gloves ready to go.  One gloved hand is sufficient.

I am assuming you have set the mood and made sure everyone was on the same page and ready for the back door expedition. 

It is generally best for him to start lying on his back with his knees up.  Start with a little foreplay and get him aroused – enjoy being in the driver’s seat!  Apply a generous amount of lube to your gloved hand.  Tease externally first.  Massage the entrance with slow circular motions.  Pay attention to his body language and the noises he makes.  Does he seem nervous and tense, or does it seem as though he is offering up is tush? 

Now for the real prostate massage how to:

Slowly and gently slide your lubed gloved finger into his anus.  You will feel a bulky mass that is about the size of a walnut.  That is the prostate gland.  You can use a circular technique, the upward come hither technique (as if you are summoning someone to come towards you with your finger) or a press and release technique.  Whatever you choose, it is best to not focus too much on the very center of the gland.  It is very sensitive.  While you should find a rhythm, do not vigorously massage the prostate – you may cause damage!  There will only be a thin layer of skin separating your finger from the gland and it is quite fragile.  The whole process should be gentle.  Continue to stimulate him in other ways unless he requests otherwise.

Again, pay attention to his reactions.  If he seems uncomfortable, check in and make sure he wants to continue.  If his eyes are rolled back and he is moaning with pleasure, keep doing what you’re doing!

What will happen?

Non-ejaculatory fluid may be released (excess fluid from gland).  This is called milking the prostate – another health benefi. 

He may have an earth shattering non-ejaculatory full bodied orgasm.  Awesome! 

Put your goggles on because he may have a seriously explosive orgasm!  During the massage, additional seminal fluid will be produced.

Aneros Maximus

Enjoy sending your partner to orgasmic bliss.  When you are finished, slowly slide your finger out and give yourself a pat on the back (after you wash your hands).  Giving pleasure can be as rewarding and stimulating as receiving it.  After washing up, go ahead and get your vibrator out.  You deserve it!

If you are not comfortable using your fingers, we offer a ton of great prostate massagers.  Many men love products by Aneros.

Have fun and communicate.  Prostate massage can bring your adult play to a whole new level.

Now don’t go all willy nilly and grab the first dildo you see as you head straight for the back door.  As always, safety first and don’t forget what you learned in Part 1. (Click here to move on to Part 3)

Anal Sex Toy Safety

As you read in Part 1, have plenty of lube on hand and use lots of it.  Waterbased personal lubricant is a good choice because it plays nicely with all materials.  Look for one that is formulated for anal sex for a more lube-a-riffic time.  Silicone lube eats through silicone toys, plain and simple.

ONLY use anal toys that have a FLARED BASE or a RETRIEVAL CHORD!  There are no exceptions to this rule.  Unless you want a really embarrassing trip to the ER, you’re going to want to follow this one.  Rebel elsewhere.

The flared base ensures that the butt plug or dildo will not enter further into the anus than desired.  By this I mean it won’t disappear inside your butt.  The sphincter muscle is semi-involuntary.  With one random flex, a toy without a flared base can get sucked up and lost inside of your colon.  Yikes!

As with all sex toys, it is best to use nonporous, hypoallergenic, phthalate free toys.  Materials like silicone, aluminum, glass and even wood are safe to use on the body and can be cleaned easily.  Porous materials like jelly hold on to bacteria which can cause problems the next time you use the toy.  If you have a toy you absolutely love that is made out of porous materials, put a condom over it when using!

As with fingernails, smooth or file down and rough seems or edges on the toy.  Even the tiniest bit of sharpness can feel like a razor during anal play.  The lining of the rectum is quite delicate.

Again, never ever ever ever use a toy in, on or around the vagina that was just used for anal play unless you have seriously cleaned it FIRST!  Who likes infections?  Same goes for anal sex!  If you want to travel back and forth between the vagina and anus, put multiple condoms over the toy and remove one before switching to the other play ground.

Lube? Yep. Flared base? Got it.  The right materials?  Yes.  No switching between playgrounds without proper precautions! Okay!

Silicone butt plug: great for anal beginners!

Butt Plugs

Butt Plugs are great for moving beyond the fingers while on your journey towards anal sex.  You stick them in and they stay there.  They stretch the anus and give a nice filled feeling.  They can be worn during ply time, intercourse or just while you are washing the dishes or lounging around the house.  They can intensify your orgasm as the muscles tighten around the butt plug and send you straight to the moon.  In addition to a flared base, they generally have a smaller slender “neck” for the anus to hold on to, a wider shaft and then they taper again.  Shapes vary a bit, but the sizes vary a great deal.  Start small and slowly work your way up in size.

Anal Dildos

“Anal Dildos are designed specifically for anal play, using flared bases and retrieval mechanisms to facilitate safe anal play.”  You may be asking, “What is the difference between a regular old dildo and an anal dildo?”  Well, some dildos are designed with the shape of the rectum in mind and follow the contours of the back entry way.  Sizes and shapes vary greatly.  However, you can use most dildos anally as long as the flared base is present.  These toys are great for introducing and getting used to the thrusting motion that comes with anal sex, opposed to the butt plug which stays in place.  Start with a dildo that is less than 1 inch in width.  Don’t thrust too deep at first.  Take it easy or you won’t enjoy it and you will never get to the pot of anal gold!  By the way, a set of balls on the dildo does count as a flared base.

Anal Vibrators

Anal vibrators are often anal dildos, probes or butt plugs with a motor.  They may come with a removable bullet so you can choose whether or not you want buzz in your booty.  This also makes cleaning easier.  You don’t have to worry about ruining the vibration mechanism by submersing in water and you can sterilize all of the nooks and crannies.  Vibration can feel wondrous inside of the rear end.  Some like to tease the little back door opening with the vibration before inserting.  The sensation may also transfer to the genitals which many find to be incredibly thrilling.

Anal Beads

Adorable Anal Beads

While anal beads may not be considered essential when preparing for anal sex, they are certainly worth the discussion when it comes to anal play.  Anal beads are a set of beads connected by a string, often nylon, or a “stick” made of the same material as the beads themselves.  The beads may graduate in size, or they may all be the same size.  Bead sizes and cord lengths vary.  They are often made from, but not limited to, hard plastic, jelly or silicone.  Beads connected by the stick, especially silicone, are easier to clean and sterilize.  Unwanted bacteria and substances may hold on to a soft cord or porous bead material.  One downfall of the plastic beads is that each bead is usually comprised of two halves stuck together, which in turn gives you a seam: a rough, mean and painful seam!  Avoid them, or file them down.

Here is where the magic happens: Gently insert each bead into the anus at the beginning or midway through your adult play time.  Just before or at the exact moment of orgasm hold on to the end of the string and pull the beads out.  Some prefer a slow gradual pull; others prefer to feel a rapid succession of beads as they exit.  This gives brain melting, leg cramping, tear jerking orgasms to women and men.  Try it.  You will probably love it.

Get your anal play on and explore all of these toys.  You can try them out by yourself and find fun new ways to masturbate.  You can call it solo play time if it makes you feel better about it.   You can also try them with a partner and find new ways to stimulate each other.  Let these adult products work you up to hot anal sex fun, or just enjoy them for what they are.  Anal toys may not be for you, but like mom always said, “How will you know until you try?”

The world of anal play is vast and could be explored for lengthy periods of time.  Really, it is.  There is no barricade, wall or even taper; the rectum leads to your colon and so on and so on and so on.  One could go on for days about all of the facets of anal pleasures, but today let’s just cover a few basics.

As a disclaimer, I am not an anal aficionado.  For years I thought anal play and/or anal sex was something I could only enjoy after a few glasses of wine.  I became curious and started to do some research and a little exploration of my own.  It is only fair that I share this stuff with you.

First of all, use lube. A lot of lube.  Water based lubrication works just fine, especially in a thicker gel formula.  Although, you will have to reapply frequently throughout the course of play time.  Silicone lube is great because it will stick around a little longer than a water based formula.  You won’t have to reapply as frequently, which is one less interruption during a romp session.  Use whichever you prefer, just have plenty close at hand.

Tickle. Yes, tickle the outside of that tight little pucker.  It is an involuntary, well slightly involuntary, muscle that will open and close as you brush your finger or small toy from top to bottom.  The opening will wink at you a few times.  When the time is right, go ahead and gently press your finger against that little winker and eventually slide your finger in.  Your lube covered finger that it!  Using your finger is a great way to introduce someone to anal play.  Fingers are small and easily controlled. Using something that is too big, such as a large dildo or a real cock, will cause serious damage to those muscles.  The person could potentially have health issues for the rest of their life!  Why risk it when it can be easily avoided?  Play time should feel good anyway.

Experiment. Once you have gotten this far, use your fingers to experiment with what stimulates the receiver.  Learn your way around the rectum.  The more you know about your partner’s erogenous zones, the better lover you become.  Not so sure about putting your fingers in what you always thought was the no-no spot?  Wear a latex glove!  It creates a great barrier and becomes nice and slippery when lubed up.  It will also keep you from causing any damage with sharp fingernails.  The last thing you want to hear from your lover is ouch!

Toys. Simple and imperative rule:  Use a toy with a flared base or retrieval chord.  There are absolutely no exceptions to this rule.  Ever.  Remember that whole vast – exploration thing?  That is what I am talking about here.  Unless you want to spend the night in the ER hoping the doctor finds that life like dong inside of you or your loved one, use a toy with a flared base or chord.

I promised not to go on too long about the fabulous world of butt love, but I will say that butt plugs are a great place to go after the fingers have had their fun.  They are great for stretching your anus the right way so you can enjoy a wild night of anal play/ anal sex later.  You might even like that “filled” feeling!

“Anatomy of a good comfortable plug includes: a narrow tip for ease of entry, a gentle curve that will allow the muscles to gently stretch, a lower curve that won’t cause the muscles to be shocked as they downsize, a neck to grab hold of, and a flanged base so the plug won’t be accidentally sucked in.” Metis Black said this perfectly in her Bend Over Beginner article on Tantusinc . com.

I’ll save the anal beads and dildos for another time.  Until then, try the Flirt.  It is a high quality butt plug with a classic design.

“The Flirt is an easy adventure into anal exploration. The tip is narrow and the curves are very gentle so that anal muscle bands can adjust comfortably around them with ease. Hypoallergenic, boilable, bleachable and dishwasher safe.

Diameter: 1.4 inches
Length: 5.25 inches

Tantus Inc. uses only the highest quality materials in the manufacture of their sex toys. These sex toys are an excellent choice for consumers who suffer from allergies, or sensitivity to chemicals. Whether it is medical grade silicone or quality controlled, body safe and treated aluminum, you can be sure that the use of a Tantus sex toy is safe and healthy. For more information, see the interview with Metis Black from Tantus Inc. in the Sex Toys Blog.”

I have barely penetrated the infinite universe of anal play here.  There is much to learn about the muscle bands and how to stimulate both women and men through their backdoors.   I shall reach further into the anal abyss and share with you all of my findings!

- This information has been taken from personal experience and areas of research.  The meat of this research was from Metis Black’s Bend Over Beginner article.

Let this fun vibe add spice to play with your partner, or fun to your time alone. Looking for safe, fun toys for your next play time? This ribbed handcrafted Ice Colored vibe is made of hygienically superior 100 percent silicone.

It is hypoallergenic, odorless, tasteless and dishwasher safe. It is also phthalate free, making it safer for the user. Its large round smooth tip makes it easy for insertion and the ribs on the shaft heighten sensitivity during penetration.

It has a wide flared base for safety and a better grip for handling. It is also harness compatible, making it a selection suitable for couples.

With a waterproof design, this vibe is excellent for fun in a variety of settings, wet or dry. The vibe is 5.5 inches long with an insertable length of 4.75 inches. This toy requires 3 watch batteries that are included.

Tantus Inc. uses only the highest quality materials in the manufacture of their sex toys. These sex toys are an excellent choice for consumers who suffer allergies, or sensitivity to chemicals. Whether it is medical grade silicone or quality controlled, body safe and treated aluminum, you can be sure that the use of a Tantus sex toy is safe and healthy. For more information, see the interview with Metis Black from Tantus Inc. in the Sex Toys Blog.

As always with anal play, use lube.  Water based only for this and all silicone toys!

Everyone knows that I am a big fan of my Swing.  The possibilities are endless when it comes to positions.  Plus, it’s just fun to see what my friends do with it/ in it/ on it/ around it, even with their clothes on.  So, when perusing the featured items on the left of this page, Topco’s Love Swing Harness With Anal Plug got my attention.

I am not a huge fan of huge toys entering through the rear.  For that matter, I even shy away from medium sized anal toys.  However, I am still curious about this accessory that goes with my beloved swing.

“Love Swing Harness With Anal Plug. This great accessory attaches to the Love Swing seat for solo satisfaction or for double penetration. It fulfills the role of double penetration when used with a partner or another toy!

At 5 inches long, it is a perfectly sized toy for multiple uses. It has a padded black harness with a Velcro closing. It also has a suction cup base for play outside of the swing.”

It sounds like a good way to turn up the kink!  Double penetration without the third party: no awkward goodbyes and you won’t have to split your after sex snack three ways.

”Tantus Silicone Beads - Black. Finally anal beads that are easy to clean. Silicone is the ideal material for beads because its flexible, hypoallergenic, and it warms to body heat.

At 8 1/2 inches long, these are certainly enough to keep you happy. The smooth beads start with a small bead for easy insertion. With a column of 6 beads you’ll have plenty of fun.

Silicone not only lasts a lifetime but it doesn’t harbor bacteria and is easy to clean- it’s boilable, bleachable (in a 10% solution), and dishwasher safe. The way beads pop out of the ass is wonderful, both visually as well as tactile- especially during climax.”

Too much or too little for your anal play time?  Check out all of our anal toys!

Apparently women lack the ability to be raunchy writers.  I guess I missed the memo on that one.

The new owner of Britain’s Erotic Review, Kate Copstick, is in favor of males when it comes to writing about hot and dirty sex.  I found this little gem on Reuters.  It was reported by Paul Launer.

“Women are not passionate enough about sex and concentrate too much on feelings to be able to write raunchy stories, the new owner of Britain’s Erotic Review said on Monday.

Determined not to let the magazine be “drowned in estrogen,” she said she would have almost exclusively male writers as they knew a lot more about sex.

“I think women, too many of them, whether it’s nature or nurture or politics, they’re not straightforward about sex,” Kate Copstick told Reuters.

“It’s almost like writing about food … Ladies who lunch, should not really write about food because they don’t really love food. They don’t salivate at the thought of a great steak.”

My job here at SexToysForLadies . com is to discuss sex toys in a semi-light hearted tone.  However, I have read plenty of blog posts by women who are downright dirty in the best possible way.  Do all female sex writers only concern themselves with candle lit bubble baths and massages?  Hardly.  From gangbangs to BDSM, I have read articles by women that dampen panties and make men’s jeans a little tighter.  So yes, the ladies can write the raunch AND they like to read it!

Need a little raunchy writing inspiration?  Check out our full selection of anal sex toys.