Without further ado and in no particular order -

1. Do I really need to explain this Saturday Night Striptease favorite?  Take one look at this fiery bombshell and you will know why Blaze Starr was called the “Hottest Blaze Burlesque”! 

2. The O2 Revolution by Tantus offered a little more in size than I usually require, but it quickly became a favorite in my toy collection.  It is made from 100% platinum grade silicone, is hypoallergenic, phthalates free, nonporous, easily sterilized, aesthetically pleasing and downright awesome!  It is perfect for those times when that fulfilled sensation is desired.

3. The Fantasy Swing was an awesome addition to my toy and furniture collection.  My boo and I have enjoyed using it quite a few times – it allows for fun and creative positions during hanky panky time and honestly it just fun to play on even with your clothes on.  It is incredibly sturdy and secure.  Hint: Hanging it from something that can support the load is a must!

4. Fun Factory’s Layaspot is definitely my go to massager.  It is what I like to call fantastical – made from body friendly elastomed, it fits perfectly in the palm of your, has a satisfying range of vibration and rates a 10 on the orgasmatron 5000 meter.  While I feel that my love for this amazing little contraption would be best described through interpretive dance, I will simply quote myself.  “I’d like to give the geniuses at Fun Factory a bunch of kisses for this one.  Or make them cookies; ask for their hand in marriage or some such activity that would hopefully let them know that I love this toy from the absolute depths of my soul.”

5. Pink Silicone Lube.  I love this stuff!  I can’t use it with any of my beloved silicone toys, but it is perfect for toy free partnered play and intercourse.  It has to be reapplied far less often than water based lube, but still washes off fairly easily.  It makes everything silky smooth, soft and slippery without feeling thick and goopy (technical term).  It can almost be described as baby powder like.  Paraben and glycerin free, this stuff is made for women with even the most sensitive of naughty bits.  The classy glass bottle looks fabulous on my nightstand too. 

That concludes my Top 5 of 2009.  It has been great year for toy testing and so much more.  I can only hope that 2010 will be equally as fantastic!  Happy New Year!

It has come to my attention recently that not all women masturbate.  I consider myself to be open minded and accepting of people’s preferences, likes, dislikes, fetishes, phobias and habits.  Just about anyone can tell me anything and I won’t bat an eye, sigh or even say “huh”.   However, when a couple of my lady friends told me they had never played DJ Diddles at the Clit Club my mouth dropped.  Wide open. 

Before I could stop myself from making them feel incredibly self conscious about something that I am quite comfy with, all I could say was, “WHY”?  My question was answered with timid gestures and a general consensus of, “because I don’t have to”.  Translation: I have a significant other.  To which I replied, “so, that’s not the point.  Masturbation doesn’t take the place of intercourse”.

Hitachi: Quintessential Masturbation Tool

As the conversation continued I calmed down and hopped of my soap box.  Everyone comes from different backgrounds and sexual experiences, and there is nothing wrong it.  But, it is up to me to encourage masturbation, even if they are getting laid on the regular.  I realized that since I myself knew a couple of awesome, down to earth chicks who weren’t familiar with the stirring of the honey pot, there are probably tons of female masturbation virgins roaming the earth and surfing the web.  Don’t get me wrong, I like partnered sex.  No, I love partnered sex.  But, I enjoy a good solo session from time to time and so should you!

Through time, masturbation has been thought of as taboo, dirty and even something to be ashamed of.  Depending on the time and place, the degree of severity varies.  Some even suggest that masturbation is something you “grow out of”.  There are ridiculous myths surrounding the act of jackin’ or jillin’ off. I have never met anyone who had a sudden burst of acne or who grew hair on their palms after a nice self induced orgasm.  Oh yeah, I once heard it was okay for guys to masturbate, but not girls.  Well I am claiming myself as the authority on all of these statements and guess what, they are all LIES!

Why masturbate?

Yes, it does feel awesome.  This is especially true once you really get to know yourself.  You know what you like, you know where to go, what to do and what it takes to enjoy a long drawn out self tease or how to get it done when you are in a hurry.  But, feelin’ good isn’t the only reason to handle your business.

Nothing wrong with fast and cheap.

Masturbation also relieves stress.  You get to focus on yourself and your needs alone.  Oxytocin is released and that fuzzy feeling of calm washes over you once orgasm is achieved.  With this being said, solo play can also act as a sleep aid.  If you are tossing and turning, you may want to consider letting go of your troubles with a little self love.  During orgasm you release tons of endorphins; shortly after, falling asleep is super easy.

Masturbation can also improve your partnered sex life.  Exploring your own body and discovering what sends you into orgasmic bliss will help you communicate your needs to your partner in a clear and confident way.  Your honey bunny will more than likely be happy to do what makes you feel good.  Even using a vibrator on your own time can help improve your sexual satisfaction. 

According to WebMD, “Those who used a vibrator, she [Debby Herbenick, PhD, MPH] found, even if it had been a year since the use, “had better sexual functioning in terms of vaginal lubrication, desire, arousal and ease of orgasm, and they tended to have less pain or discomfort during intercourse.”

But “it may be that those who don’t find sex painful tend to use a vibrator,” she says.”

The latter part of that quote may be true, but it is definitely a story that deserves some time - another time.  However, if using a bit of buzz can take you where you need to be both when alone and during hanky panky time, why not use one?  Knowing your body and what makes you moan can only help you grow as a sexual being and get more enjoyment out of all sexual endeavors.

WebMD also goes on to state that many women claim that masturbation helps relieve menstrual cramps as well.  I don’t know about you, but I am a fan of anything that makes that time of the month a little less like living in hell.

Whether you are single or in a relationship, masturbation is a healthy enterprise that should be explored.  If you are unattached there is no reason to go unsatisfied.  All of that tension will lead to unnecessary stress.  Knowing what you like, and don’t like, will make you a better lover.  Like Sara says, knowledge is power and power is sexy.

Now you know why you should masturbate.  Come back next week for a few helpful tips on how to get started.  If you can’t wait that long - happy experimenting!

I love Christmas stockings!  They are always filled with delicious sweet treats, fun gadgets and socks.  Really, I like the socks.  I know; I’m a huge dork for that.  While they look lovely all hung with care – and with your name written with glitter puffy paint – I also love another type of stocking.  The kind of stockings that cover your legs and give your lingerie, or fabulous New Years Eve dress, that finishing touch.  Recently added on sextoys . com are the standard yet super sexy Fishnet Stocking with Lace Top.  Every gal should have a pair in their hosiery collection. 

“Fishnet Stocking with Lace Top – black one size. Elegant and sexy! The one size fits most high is made for women 90-160 pounds.”

Fishnet pantyhose and stockings hug every curve, define the leg muscles and are among the sexiest of garments.  The general term, fishnet pantyhose, refers to the most common type of the material with holes that are about 1/16 inch wide.  The material itself has an open, usually diamond-shaped, net.  Other patterns of fishnet do exist.  Fishnets are usually made from, but not limited to, nylon with a small percentage of spandex or other material for elasticity. 

Fishnets can be worn over a pair of flesh-toned panty hose or tights to give the leg a smooth, even look.  You can put them over a pair of opaque, brightly colored pantyhose for a funky fun look.  You may find them with designs and various details such woven throughout.  Nude fishnet pantyhose are perfect for giving a slimming effect to the legs.  There are various relatives of fishnet material such as micronet, industrial net, diamond net and fence net.  You can find all fishnet shapes and sizes in a variety of colors and with or without back seams.

Whether your stocking are filled with candy canes or a rocking pair of stems, I hope you all have a wonderful holiday!

Pasties are a fun way to accessorize your body in the bedroom.  Nipples are lovely, but there is just something about bright colors and cute shapes on boobies that are fun to look at and oh so enticing.  I am more than familiar with sparkling sequin pasties dangling with silky soft tassels.  They are eye catching and make for perfect finale to nearly every striptease.  

Lolos by FunFactory are a little different but just as cute as shiny circular nipple covers.  You don’t have to be on stage to wear them either!  You can totally rock them during an all night romp session with your lover in the bedroom, shower or pool.  That’s right; they stay on in the water!  What a great way to brighten up your usual sex in the shower session.  Lolos come in various shapes and colors to suit your mood.  Each style has its own name and if you’re a cheesecake girly girl like me, then you have to love that too!

I have my eye on the Lilli Heart lolos.  They are true red and would look adorably naughty on any gal.  I would love to add them to my collection.

“Lolos – Lilli Heart. The sensual jewelry love yourself! for breasts! They are casual for the day, sporty on the beach and glamorous for an evening out! Place the soft silicone on your most alluring assets for an erotic embellishment. They stay on magically even in water (instead of a bikini) and can used over and over again. An endless game of hide and seek for HER and HIM and their fans!

Application:

- The packaging can also be used as a storage box for your lolos.
- lolos do not adhere to areas of the body covered with suntan lotion or other fatty moisturizers, so always be sure to place lolos on the desired body part before applying lotions.
- A hypoallergenic coating guarantees that lolos adhere to the body.
- To ensure adhesion strength for multiple uses, lolos should be cleaned using cold water without any cleansers.”

Be sure to check out all of our awesome pasties!

Yes ladies, you can get your Rocks Off too. 

Rocks Off makes high quality products out of body safe materials that are satisfying and fun to look at.  Some of their awesome vibes are made out of platinum cured silicone.  This material is also used in the making of body implants so it is no surprise that it is hypoallergenic and phthalates free.  Their other fabulous toys are made from IntraMed.  What?  IntraMed is a medical grade material that is quite similar to silicone AND is “fully reprocess-able and recyclable”.  Are you a green gal?  Then products made from IntraMed are for you!

Here is a little about their great vibes that are all powered by the award winning RO-80 MM Chrome Bullet.

The Rock-Chick is often imitated, but do not be fooled.  The folks at Rocks Off have the original design and your pleasure in mind.

“Girls Stop Rabbiting and Start Rockin’ with this award winning product. Rock-Chick was the first and is still the best dual clitoral and G Spot toy on the market. Whether you are G Spot experienced or a beginner Rock-Chick will hit your spot every time!

Simple to use Rock-Chick provides hands free stimulation. Made from medical grade silicone for your safe use.  Rock-Chick is 100% waterproof so you can Rock in the bath! The powerful, silent vibration is provided by our amazing RO-80MM bullet vibe.”

Enjoy all of its hands free glory.  Lean back or sit up and get your hips a rockin’!  Use your imagination, get your boo involved and rock it out!

If you prefer clitoral stimulation only, The Lick is your cup of tea.

“Experience tongue twisting, toe curling pleasure with this new cunningly clever design!

Silent and 100% waterproof The Lick will ‘Go Down’ whenever and wherever you want it. Produced using the new environmentally friendly IntraMed material for your safe use, now you can cum without conscience!

The powerful long lasting vibration is provided by the amazing RO-80mm. 1 x 1.5V LR1 / N Size / AM5 battery supplied.

We’re sure you will agree The Lick is… lickaliciously good!“

They have you anal stimulation lovers covered too.  I can’t help but love the name: Ass-Berry.

“This thick, nubby sex toy looks just like a berry!

Made with proprietary IntraMed material, the Ass-Berry Blackberry is hypo-allergenic and body safe for worry free play! The bullet and berry sleeve are also both waterproof to add a bit of fruity fun to the bath, shower, or pool! The soft, pliable surface features raised textures for lots of fun, and a special RO-80MM bullet vibrator for power.”

Get the Naughty Boy, Rude Boy or Bad Boy for your boy so he can get his Rocks Off too.  They are fabulous prostate and perineum stimulators. 

Get your buzz on and get your Rocks Off.

I am all about the relaxation. 

Our biggest burlesque show of the year is right around the corner so I have been a busy little bee – rehearsing, making costumes and well, you name it.  Needless to say, relaxation hasn’t exactly fit into my schedule, but I have managed to pencil it in on a few occasions.  I could always use a little help during those brief sessions of calm in my life, so I am adding the Foam Body Spa Sponge to my Wish List. 

It vibrates!  This makes it great for easing sore neck muscles, which I always seem to have.  More importantly, this sponge great for some quality solo play time in the bath tub.  A little vibration goes a long way.  It just looks like your everyday sponge, so no one will ever know what you really use it for. 

Like so many of our fabulous products, the Foam Body Spa Sponge would make a great gift for just about any gal.  It is perfect for scrubbing the day away, plus it has the added benefit of buzz.

“Indulge yourself with a gentle full body massage. Body Spa`s soft mesh sponge, with built-in waterproof vibrator, relieves stress as you relax in pure comfort. Pulsating action turns you bath into a discreet home spa.

A great way to pamper yourself! * Super quiet, powerful vibrator * Lathers generously with soap * Soft, sensual and relaxing * Creates its own bubbling spa action * Batteries included.

She may have a bathtub full of products, but does she have a vibrating sponge? Whether she is a woman who takes bath time seriously or is in need of a little pampering, she will adore this! This is a great gift idea for women who could use some relaxation time. What woman doesn’t?”

Check out all of our Bath and Beauty Products and Gifts For Women!

Let’s be honest here: many of us tend to pack on the pounds during the holidays.  Delicious treats are a plenty, it’s far too cold to spend time playing outdoors and no one can see your girlish figure under 19 layers of clothing anyway. 

This year, I am determined not to let that scrumptious assortment of holiday cookies get the best of me!  A bite or two will satisfy my sweet tooth and I plan on getting my heart rate up indoors.  There are plenty of everyday activities that burn those extra calories you are going to consume.  For example: taking the stairs, vacuuming and sex.  That’s right, it’s a scientific fact.

According to WebMD,

Thirty minutes of sex burns 85 calories or more. It may not sound like much, but it adds up: 42 half-hour sessions will burn 3,570 calories, more than enough to lose a pound. Doubling up, you could drop that pound in 21 hour-long sessions.

“Sex is a great mode of exercise,” says Patti Britton, PhD, a Los Angeles sexologist and president of the American Association of Sexuality Educators and Therapists. It takes work, from both a physical and psychological perspective, to do it well, she says.

Chances are you are not going to spend 21 hours in the sack.  Then again, who am I to make that call?  Either way, the mattress mambo is great in all of its glory and isn’t such a bad way to burn calories. Not to mention, it reduces holiday stress and is a great way to avoid cabin fever! 

Like Joy Davidson, Ph. D said, “sex does a body good in a number of ways”.  This is true as long as you are having safe sex; or at least safer sex.  What is the point of boosting your immunity (yes, another health benefit of sex according to WebMD) if you are not going to use condoms?  While the weather outside is frightful, I encourage you to enjoy lots of sex.  But, in the name of all that is right, use condoms!

We certainly have plenty to choose from. 

We have the classics, like Trojan Regular non-lubricated.  With these you are going to need some water based lube.

“These Trojan brand condoms are non-lubricated for those that prefer to use their own lubricant or none at all. Individually electronically tested to ensure protection against STDs, STIs, and pregnancy, these condoms also feature a rounded end shape for a comfortable fit.

Color: Translucent Type: Condom Pack: 12 Special Features: Unlubricated, Rounded End.”

We have variety packs.  These are great for finding the perfect condom for you.  Go ahead and give the Durex Pleasure Pack a whirl.  You get an assortment of Durex condoms including Performax, Ultimate Feeling, Intense Sensation and Colors and Scents varieties.

We have condoms for those who like to be ready for anything at any time.  For those times when the mood strikes unexpectedly, the Trojan 2 Go Her Pleasure includes “2 condoms in a pocket sized card”. 

“Trojan 2 Go – A revolutionary new package that makes it easier to discreetly carry condoms with you wherever you go, so you`ll always have one when you need it.

Ultra Thin Latex Condom – Designed for a more natural feeling Lubricated – For comfort and sensitivity Made from Premium Quality Latex – To help reduce the risk Each Condom is Electronically tested – To help ensure reliability.”

Burn calories with pleasure and always play it safe!

I am loving The Sugar Sak!  It is a fabulous sex toy storage solution.

It is pretty in pink and holds your naughty necessities while keeping them clean.  Your toys can remain free from gross dust particles and anything else that may float through the air.  Every girl needs somewhere to hide and store her adult toys.  Instead of that clunky old box or less than attractive duffle bag, why not use this specialized bag?  The Sugar Sak is the perfect dildo or vibrator accessory.  It is adorable and affordable. 

Not sure what to get the gal who has everything?  Perhaps you need another present to make that gift opening experience complete.  The Sugar Sak is the perfect gift idea for the sex toy loving lady in your life.  Why not surprise her with a new toy inside?  She will love you for thinking of everything.  Ladies, your closest homegirl would love it too, or give yourself the gift you know you will love!  These lovely little totes come in smaller sizes and in red and black.

“A sexy designer toy bag that will keep your bedroom accessories bacteria free!

The 9.5 inch x 12 inch Sugar Sak provides you with the protection of Bioshield 75. This invisible coating utilizes exclusive EPA approved patented technology to provide a barrier that inhibits the growth of bacteria, fungi, yeast, mold, mildew and viruses in the bag. Bag up some fun… the safe and clean way!”

Not to worry, Bioshield 75 does not harm humans in any way.

I have had my eye on Lelo’s Ella for quite some time now.  It is simple yet sophisticated and perfectly designed for absolutely fabulous g spot stimulation.  It is also something I would love to find under the Christmas tree in a few weeks!  Not that I wouldn’t take it before hand – just putting that out there in case a certain someone is reading this.

The Ella is made from phthalates free, nonporous, hypoallergenic silicone.  This also means it is easily steralized.  This beautiful g spot dildo will not cause any annoying infections and is effortlessly cleaned after that neck twisting orgasm.  It is no surprise this luxurious toy made it onto my Wish List and into our Featured Products For Women category!  Now if I could only get it into my greedy little paws.

Yes, the perfectly curved tip makes this Lelo product perfect for g spot play, but what about the other end?  Well, it is ideal for use as a traditional dildo.  If I am not in the mood for intense stimulation, I can still enjoy the Ella and so can you.  You have to get your own of course. 

“Seamless, sleek, and made of sensual velvety-textured silicone, the Ella is a truly elegant dildo made by Lelo, famous for their luxe boudoir offerings.

Beautifully presented with a storage box, satin pouch, and a 1-year LELO warranty, the Ella is a woman’s pleasure object that impresses with stylish function and shape.

A tilted oval head is perfectly angled for G-spot massage at one end, while the other features a gently tapered straight design for traditional satisfaction. The Ella can be boiled in water for three minutes to sterilize, and should only be used with water-based lubricants.

Color: White Type: G-Spot Silicone Dildo Material: Silicone Length: 7in Circumference: 4in / 3 3/4in Special Features: Boilable, Storage Case Included, Storage Bag Included, 1 Year Warranty Included.”