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Are you anally interested?  Ready to open your back door for business?  Does anal sex excite you and frighten you all at the same time?  Well, I am here to help.

You can’t go “all in” right away.  Warm up is important.  It is a good idea to start with anal play involving lots of lube, fingers and toys.  Calm your eager partner, and remind them this should be and can be enjoyed by the both of you.  Have them read this with you.  Not only will these suggestions get you ready to take the anal plunge, they will add to your adult play time repertoire of activities.

Lube it or lose it.

Awesome waterbased anal lube!

Make sure you have a full supply of lube.  Unlike the vagina, the anus does not naturally produce moisture.  If you don’t use a lubricant, you could cause serious damage to your rear end.  You don’t want the word “tear” to be associated with anything that has to do with anal sex.  Ouch!  Waterbased personal lubricant is always a good choice.  It is safe to use with condoms and sex toys (it won’t eat through them).  It does absorb into the skin quickly, so keep it close by so you can reapply with ease.  Some lubes are specially formulated for anal sex and may give you a little more slip.  You can find lots of lube here.

Relax.

Get in a comfortable position that doesn’t require your muscles to do too much work.  Don’t clinch your butt cheeks; this is not the time to get your kegal exercises in.  Breathe continuously and allow your body to let go of any tension.  Tight rectal muscles will only make anal play and anal sex difficult and painful.

Friendly fingers.

Ask any anal aficionado and they will tell you that using a finger is the best way to get acquainted with anal sex.  First of all, the finger-er should wash their hands and the finger-ee should wash their bum.  Be sure to trim your finger nails and file any rough edges.  A sharp nail can easily tear the thin lining of the rectum, even through protective covering. Again, ouch!  To keep things hygienic, you can use a finger cot (finger condom) or a latex glove.  Many ladies out there have latex allergies, therefore latex free nitrile gloves are a great alternative.  Just apply the personal lubricant to the glove or finger condom and you will have a nice satisfying slippery finger to work with. 

Start slow! 

Massage: intimate and relaxing.

Tickle the outside of the anus by gently sliding your finger up and down over the little pucker.  It feels great and helps the rectal muscles to relax.  Since these muscles are semi-involuntary, the opening to the tunnel of mystery and splendor will begin to wink at you.  Eventually, it is time for the finger to gently slide in, still relaxing.  Pay attention to the receiver’s body language.  You will be able to tell if she loves it or if it is uncomfortable.  If not, just ask.  If she isn’t enjoying the use of your finger, she probably won’t enjoy anal sex.  Communicate and ask what could make this anal endeavor better.  If she is loving it, keep up the good work.  Vaginal oral sex in addition to anal play just might make her lose her mind!  Just a suggestion.

If the receiver absolutely does not like it they should absolutely stand their ground and the giver should absolutely not push it!      

Never ever ever ever go from the anus to the vagina without washing your hands, toy or penis first!  Even if you washed your hands before play time, wash them again before moving on to the vagina.  Not doing so can and will likely cause infection and irritation.  You have been warned!

Now you are off to a good start.  Lube up, trim up, wash up and enjoy your first anal journey.  Come back next week and we shall discuss fun toys like butt plugs and anal dildos.  Anal sex shall be yours to behold!

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