Healthy Marriage: Sex is Not a Chore!
People are always talking about marriage and boredom. This can involve anything from social lives to sex. Now, you know I’m going to talk about the sex side of the scenario.
An article on CNN.com titled 9 Ways to Keep Your Marriage Healthy, Make Sex a Priority – but Not a Chore, came in at number 4.
“While you should make sex a priority, you shouldn’t pencil it in on your planner. If you schedule sex, it becomes a responsibility –just like taking out the trash, says Andrew Goldstein, M.D., an obstetrician and gynecologist at the Johns Hopkins School of Medicine, in Baltimore, and the coauthor of “Reclaiming Desire.”
But it doesn’t matter whether you’re having sex five times a week or five times a year — as long as both of you are happy, says Dr. Goldstein. In fact, a 2008 study found that couples who reported any kind of marital intimacy — everything from holding hands to sex — exhibited lower levels of a hormone produced by stress.”
Take the opportunity to explore with your partner. You are in it for the long haul, why not make it fun? Go ahead and play; the adult way. Go sex toy shopping together. That in itself can be arousing. Pick out some toys you would like to use together during partnered play. I am always a big fan of shared masturbation. Perhaps delve into that arena and show your wife or hubby what you do when you’re loving yourself. You just might learn something that could make your partners head spin!
Not sure where to start? Check out the Buzz 1 by Tantus. Sara recommends it and you can find out why in her review on the Sextoys . com blog! It is a great solo toy, but is also harness compatible. Great for girls or hetero couples who want to explore pegging.
Furniture of the sexual kind also makes lovin’ fun. I love my Fantasy Swing! You can get into positions that just are not physically possible on a bed or even the kitchen counter. There are other pieces of furniture that can take your positions to the next level. They won’t have you suspended from the ceiling or in need of a yoga class to get warmed up. Take a peek at the Fetish Fantasy Inflatable Position Master.
Humans have sex for pleasure. Don’t forget that.
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